Communication, huh?
Amy August 21st, 2009
My sweet husband and I are going through some growing pains as we try to better communicate with each other. As most of you think to yourselves, good luck!, I am confident that one of these days we will figure it out. I am checking into telepathy, so that those small things like words won’t get in the way…
We have always had our struggles in this area – we are a man and a woman – but as of late it seems to be getting worse. I know that he is worn out when he walks in the door from work and his commute and gets pounced on by Camden with whom he plays with for 30 minutes before bedtime. And after that we usually eat and watch tv, so not a whole lot of words are spared anyway, but the ones that are seem to crumble before they reach each other. We both seem to stare blankly at each other and go, huh?
The other day I figured out that one of our problems is that half of our conversations occur in Mike’s mind. He swears that he tells me stuff, and I truly believe he thinks he does, but it never makes it from brain to mouth.
Mike swears that it is his years of solitude prior to our marriage that makes this difficult. I think it is just marriage. I think that we need to get out more and shake things up. This will give us more to talk about and maybe stoke up the communication fires. I love our kids and I love talking about them, but sometimes I would like to have a conversation that doesn’t begin with “Today, Camden…”
Now communicating with my 2 little boys, that is another story… or maybe the same one. My eldest son who can remember the smallest detail about electronics, simply stares at me and goes, “huh?” repeatedly when I ask him what he is doing.
Growing up, I liked hanging out with guys more than girls because they were less complicated. My husband always tells me that his thoughts are not complicated, so maybe I should remember this and not expect discussions on how to change the world or the meaning of life, but I just want to be able to discuss what we’re doing this weekend in a coherent (for both of us) conversation.
Any tips?
